Post #5: Your entire life in one word

Everyone has a single word that defines them.

At least that’s what Elizabeth Gilbert told me in “Eat, Pray, Love”. And the more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve begun to believe her.

She begins explaining this concept by naming various cities and what their words are.  For example, New York is ACHEIVE, Los Angeles is SUCCEED, Stockholm is CONFORM, and Rome is SEX -or POWER if you’re talking about Vatican City (I’ve never been to Rome so I can neither confirm or deny these rumors).

So, do you know your word? Is it FAMILY, DEPRESSION, PLEASURE, FAITH, DEVOTION… etc, etc.? It doesn’t have to be a positive word, it only has to be true.  If your word happens to be one you don’t like then go ahead and name it, but make sure you add on to it the one you WISH was true… we’ll call that your “extraordinary word”. And that’s the one we’re going to be working on here.

So what is it? What’s your word?

I knew my word without hesitation.  When I asked Scottie his word, it didn’t surprise me that he answered with the same word without even pausing for a second.

Our word is FREEDOM. 

By freedom, I don’t mean that we lack disciple, rules, and boundaries.  I have those, I want those, and I need those.  The only difference is that I want to have a say in where to place them.  I want to set up my life so that I feel like I am always able to choose to do what I believe is best for me and my family, rather than to have an outside person or force choose for me. Time freedom, freedom from debt, emotional freedom, freedom to choose where to place my energy, freedom from addictions, freedom from unhealthy societal pressures,  freedom to choose a unique lifestyle for me and my family… all of those things (and many others) are small parts that go into this bigger picture of freedom for us. The last thing we want in the world is to end up in a place where all our decisions about those things have been made for us – without any regard to whether or not they are good for us – because we were too passive to care or too lazy to act.

We believe it’s our responsibility to make the rules for our life and that we shouldn’t rely on anyone else to do it for us; not society, the government, social norms, family pressures, etc., etc. It’s our job and if we choose not to do it, we have no one to blame for the results but ourselves.


Why is this level of freedom so important to us? Because we got tired of being hypocrites.

We continually found ourselves saying what was important to us, only to look around and see that our lives didn’t reflect those things at all.

“Relationships are our #1 priority.” Oh really? Is that why all you know more about the characters on the TV shows you watch while you work than you do about your best friends?

“Our marriage is our #1 priority.” Oh really? Is that why you just called your wife a Fatty-McButter Pants after a stressful day at the office?

“Helping others is our #1 priority.” Oh really? And the last time you did anything like that was….? It doesn’t count that you gave the neighbor kid a quarter because he was short for change at the soda machine.

I got so tired of feeling like I “had” to do things a certain way, because those certain ways made me feel like I was unable to do what was really important in life. So I started looking around to see if I could find other ways to do things. And I found that the answer was to seek freedom because that will be what enables us to do our best at what’s really important to us.  Things like, creating and maintaining community, being generous with any kind of resource we have (whether it’s money, love, knowledge, hospitality, etc.), living a healthy lifestyle (we still have a LONG way to go on this one!), traveling, pursuing our passions, loving endlessly, and experiencing overwhelming joy and beauty in life.  That is an extraordinary life for us, and the key to all of this (in a really long and complex way that is too much to explain in one post) is freedom. So freedom we shall seek.

So what is it? What’s your word?

6 thoughts on “Post #5: Your entire life in one word”

  1. love this breanna! really. its a breath of fresh air on an otherwise stale and stagnant day. this will give me something positive and productive to think about and work on. one word….. this could take a while. btw, i love this site and am thrilled to see where it take you, me, us, them… what a journey.

    1. Awesome Chelsea! I’m so glad to hear it! Thanks for taking the time to not only read, but to tell me what you think about it as well! I SO value your opinion and it is super encouraging to hear that you like Rare Existence! I hope it continues to challenge you (me, us, them)!

  2. This blog is wonderful! I am enjoying this journey with you but I must say that this one has me particularly stumped. First word that came to mind was”average” which I must say I don’t quite care for. It’s so normal/boring. So now I’m thinking about my “extraordinary word”….leaning toward ADVENTUROUS! I’ll keep you posted 🙂

    1. Well Emily, I guarantee you that if you continue striving for an extraordinary life, you won’t be “average” for much longer! “Adventurous” is a GREAT alternative! Definitely let me know what you decide! Thanks SO much for reading and for commenting…. it helps me want to keep writing when I know that people are not only reading, but thinking about it too! Thanks for coming along, I’m very glad to have you!

  3. I am playing the catch up game to get caught up on your older posts. I have to say that was one of my favorite parts of Eat, Pray, Love (such a good book) I am 24 years old and am in a phase of my life where I am struggling to figure out who I am, what my purpose in life is, and what it is that I am supposed to be doing with my life. This is definitely going to be an fun, additional avenue to help me figure all this out. I think that coming up with a word the defines my life is difficult. Being honest the word that describes my life right now is: BROKENESS.
    I suppose that my extraordinary wish word would be: PEACE. I’m wishing for peace…

    1. Bianca, I love it. I love that you’re putting in the work to figure out who you are rather than just being frustrated and passive about it! And I love that you’ve read Eat Pray Love! That was the book that I was reading when I first got the idea for this blog! It was a huge inspiration in me figuring out my path of extraordinary living. Thanks so much for being so honest (that’s SO what I want Rare Existence to be about) and for taking the time to be vulnerable with others, even though we are all still strangers (hopefully not for long though)! As much as it sucks, BROKENNESS is actually a very good place to be. My most recent post had a quote from Henry David Thoreau that says, “Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves”. So I think you are in the perfect place to understand yourself and to find your own path for Rare Existence. I’m so excited for you! I hope you keep reading and keep participating in the community for support! Much Love, Breanna.

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