A traditional family life is a beautiful thing. The 2.5 kids, white picket fence, stay at home mom, a dog…. it’s really a great lifestyle… if it’s the one you’re meant to be living.
In truth, I really support this lifestyle and many times I even envy it. The only time I have a problem with it is when people believe its the ONLY way to live, regardless of whether it’s meant for them or not. In truth, it seems like this is the easiest lifestyle to fall into without realizing or questioning it. It’s the American dream, so it’s something many of us have been taught about since we were young.
If you are one of the people who is meant for this lifestyle, then congratulations you have found your “extraordinary word“!
What? You don’t think that “FAMILY” sounds extraordinary enough? Well it does because the extraordinary part is not as much about what the word itself is as it’s about the fact that you are living the life you are meant to be living. Ordinary living people just fall into life and never question whether it’s really right for them, extraordinary people question it, make conscious decisions, and live life intentionally. So if you played house from ages 2-22, your lifetime roll model is June Cleaver, and your favorite baby doll as a kid not only knew how to pee and poop but how to say her ABC’s backwards, do the dishes, and resolve conflict with her younger brotherâ€¦ and if nothing in the world sounds as good to you as spending majority of your time, life, and energy raising childrenâ€¦ then congratulations you have uncovered what you are meant to be doing with your life!
However, just because you have kids, a husband with a 9-5 job, and a house with decorations in it, does not mean that FAMILY is your extraordinary word.
Don’t assume that just because having a family is a part of your extraordinary life, that it actually is the be all end all to your extraordinary life. And definitely don’t assume that FAMILY is your word just because that’s the word you think you’re supposed to have or that other people think you are supposed to have. You can have a family and still have a word like FREEDOM or ADVENTURE… they are not contradictory concepts. You will just be moving as a family into a life of freedom or adventure, rather than doing it by yourself.
Whether or not you have kids and whether or not your word is FAMILY, you can still choose to live an extraordinary life.
I don’t have any kids, so I know enough to know that I know nothing. I may not know stuff but I do see stuff. And what I see are people who have kids and who don’t have kids, managing to accomplish what they are meant to do in life. And I see other people who have kids and who don’t have kids, saying they will one day live the life they are meant to live though they never actually get around to doing it. I also see that there are different seasons in life meant for different things. I see people who put certain things on hold for a season and then pick them back up when it’s time for a new season. And I see other people who use difficult seasons as an excuse to never move forward and progress out of those particular seasons into new things. Whether or not you have kids has nothing to do with it, either way you get to choose the kind of person you want to be and how you want to live.
* So if your word is FAMILY, live it to the fullest and hopefully you will continue to see Rare Existence as a place of refuge, support, and community.
* So if your word is not family, but you do have a family, then continue on this journey alongside your family and the rest of us to find out what sort of extraordinary life is in store for you and your family to discover and live together.
* And if you don’t want anything to do with the word FAMILY ever in your life, then I’m not talking to you because you probably didn’t read this far in to this post anyways. 😉